There’s no doubt that my two Littles love each other. They play together peacefully for long stretches of time, laugh hysterically for reasons only known to them, and comfort each other with hugs and pats on the head. They have their own little world together.
But sometimes, a playful push becomes a shove, a laugh becomes a shout, a hug becomes a too-tight squeeze. I try to avoid direct instruction (“Stop that!” or “Be gentle!”) and instead attempt to “sportscast” what is happening (“I heard Little Sir say No.” or “Your sister is crying, Little Sir.”) as advised by the wonderful parenting expert Janet Lansbury. I also use the concept of the positive phrase “I am” as encouraged by We Choose Virtues.
Yesterday, brother and sister were getting a little bit too rough for their Mama’s heart. I wanted to just scream “Stop!” – and admittedly I was really about to. Instead, I made up a little song to the tune of “Frere Jacques,” more commonly known in English as “Are you sleeping?”I am gentle, I am gentle Yes, I am! Yes, I am! I will hug my sister, I will hug my sister Yes I will, Yes I will I am gentle, I am gentle Yes, I am! Yes, I am! I lo-ove my brother, I lo-ve my brother Yes I do, Yes I do
Do you use songs too to inspire a behavior? Do you think it will work for your kids?